Curious about prostate massage but not quite ready to book a session?

Whether you’re flying solo or experimenting with a partner, learning how to explore the male G-spot at home can be intensely pleasurable — not to mention great for your health. And when you’re ready to experience it at the hands of a true expert, our lineup of Tantric massage London specialists awaits your call. But first, let’s take a look at the tried and tested prostate massage techniques for you (and your partner) to try at home.

Contents:

• Why Try Prostate Massage?
• How to Prepare Yourself
• Prostate Massage Techniques
• Best Positions to Try
• Toys That Make a Difference
• Prostate Play for Couples
• When You’re Ready to Take It Further

Why Try Prostate Massage?

Sometimes called the “male G-spot,” the prostate is a walnut-sized gland located a few inches inside the rectum. Stimulating it properly can lead to deeper, more intense orgasms, a greater sense of release, and even health benefits like improved circulation and reduced risk of prostate issues.

Men who try it often report a whole new kind of orgasm — one that builds slowly, floods the body with warmth, and can even occur hands-free. For some men, it’s about deepening their connection with their own bodies. For others, it’s about breaking out of old sexual routines. For many, it’s a combination of both!

Want to learn more about the health perks? Read our expert blog on why prostate massage is good for your health. 

 

How to Prepare Yourself

If you’re trying prostate massage at home for the first time, prep is key. This isn’t something to rush. Make sure you’re clean, relaxed, and mentally present.

Here’s how to set the stage:

• Trim and clean fingernails (or use gloves or finger condoms).
• Use a good-quality lubricant — water-based or hybrid lubes are ideal.
• Start with a shower or warm bath to relax the body and mind.
• Go slowly and listen to your body — if it doesn’t feel good, stop or adjust.

A calm, clean setting helps you relax into the experience. Dim lighting, soft music, and some candles wouldn’t hurt if you’re with a partner.

For a full breakdown on how to prepare — including what the prostate is, where to find it, and how it all works — we recommend reading our ultimate guide to prostate massage. It’s the perfect starting point before diving into the techniques, tips, and positions below.

 

Prostate Massage Techniques

Now to the good part. Once you’re relaxed and lubed, insert a clean finger or toy gently and aim toward the belly button. You’ll feel a soft, round bulge — that’s the prostate.

Here are a few proven techniques to try:

The Doorbell:

Press gently and rhythmically, like ringing a doorbell. Start light, then increase pressure slowly.

Circling:

Trace small circles around the prostate with the pad of your finger or tip of your toy. This can be especially effective for teasing arousal.

Come Hither:

Curl your finger toward you in a beckoning motion, which can create waves of pleasure along the pelvic floor.

Simulated Vibration:

Use very small, rapid movements to mimic a vibrating sensation. This technique can heighten sensitivity.

As always, communication (even with yourself!) is key. Pay attention to what feels good, and build up slowly.

Want a pro to guide your next session? Book a prostate massage with Alara, one of our top-rated experts.

 

Best Positions to Try

Positioning makes a big difference — comfort, access, and relaxation all matter. Here are some of the most effective setups:

• Legs Up (Reclined): Lie on your back with knees pulled toward your chest. This opens up access and is great for both solo and partner play.
• Doggy Style: On all fours, with back arched. Ideal for deeper access when a partner is involved.
• Side-Lying: Lie on your side with the top leg bent forward. Comfortable and relaxed, especially with a partner behind.
• Face Down: Lie on your stomach and reach back with one hand — works best with flexible arms or shorter sessions.

Experiment with pillows or wedges to find what works for your body. Comfort = pleasure.

“A lot of clients are surprised by how much more intense prostate stimulation feels when they’re on their back with their legs up. Some feel uncomfortable getting into such a vulnerable position, but once they do, they love it! It gives perfect access — especially if you’re using a toy. I always say: comfort first, then the fun follows.” – Clara, Karma Tantric Masseuse

Like the look of Clara, pictured above? She’s known for her intuitive, prostate-focused tantric sessions, so visit her profile and book your session now. 

 

Toys That Make a Difference

Using a prostate massager can take your solo (or partnered) play to the next level. Unlike fingers, toys offer consistent pressure and often come with curves that are perfectly designed to hit the right spot.

Here are some top toy types to explore:

• Non-vibrating massagers: Designed to be rocked manually, they allow precise control and are great for beginners.
• Vibrating toys: These come in various speeds and patterns, offering deeper stimulation and hands-free pleasure.
• Dual stimulators: Some toys stimulate the perineum or anus externally while massaging the prostate internally — a true full-body thrill.
• Remote-controlled options: Great for couples or long-distance play. The giver controls the vibe while the receiver enjoys.

Make sure to use toy-safe lube and clean them thoroughly before and after use.

 

Prostate Play for Couples

Prostate massage can be a beautiful shared experience between partners. It builds trust, communication, and sensual intimacy. The key? Go slow, talk often, and stay open to what feels good.

Some tips for partnered play:

• Agree on safe words or signals to pause or adjust pressure.
• Incorporate it into foreplay to help relax the body.
• Switch roles — giving can be just as erotic as receiving.
• Add toys or mutual masturbation for a more immersive experience.

Don’t force orgasm — the goal is pleasure and connection, not performance. Many couples report feeling closer and more adventurous after exploring prostate play together.

Curious to see how the pros do it? Book a couple’s Tantric massage session and discover new ways to connect.

 

When You’re Ready to Take It Further

Trying prostate massage at home can open up a whole new world of sensation — but sometimes, it’s worth letting a professional take the lead. At Karma Tantric, our handpicked gallery of prostate massage experts includes experienced masseuses trained in advanced erotic techniques, from Rosebud Bliss to sacred spot stimulation and beyond.

So, when you’re ready to let a master show you exactly how good it can feel, book a massage at Karma Tantric and experience the real thing. Trust us — your body will thank you.