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The prostate is not something that immediately springs to mind as a place to start when considering health or wellbeing. You may be interested to know that massaging the prostate and generally stimulating it can do wonders for your health. Not only is this walnut-sized gland a hot health topic, it can also be a nexus of pleasure. That’s why it’s so surprising that it remains a taboo topic, largely untapped by many.
So let’s start by finding out about what exactly is the prostate? The prostate gland is located internally, a few inches inside the anus of males, somewhere between the rectum and the testicles. It’s main function is to produce prostate fluid, one of the two main components in semen. Also, the muscles that make up the prostate area are responsible for the forceful push of semen during ejaculation.
Something that most people don’t realise is that when the prostate is touched, massaged, or ‘milked’, it can feel extremely pleasurable. It is a male erogenous zone that can increase the intensity of orgasm immensely and create sensual sensations that are usually unachievable in any other way. That’s why it’s ofter referred to as the male g-spot.
Experts aren’t in total agreement about why having your prostate massaged feels so incredible, but what we do know is this: it DOES feel really awesome (for most people, anyway). Here’s everything you should know about prostate massage – from the health benefits of prostate massage to the risks and how to get started and learn about this amazing part of the body.
What Is A Prostate Massage?
A prostate massage refers to putting fingers or a prostate massager into the anus in order to find and massage the prostate gland. This can be for a number of reasons, but for health purposes it can be a treatment for urine flow or prostatitis. When performed for sexual pleasure, the prostate is physically engaged in order to produce prostate-only orgasms or more intense orgasms when combined with other sexual touching such as penis masturbation.
Benefits Of Prostate Massage
When practiced for health reasons, there is certainly a link between prostate massage and wellbeing. There are a number of the health and therapeutic benefits of performing prostate massage – as well as the benefits to overall sexual wellness. Let’s take a look further at what they are and why they help.
Increase the intensity of your orgasms
Many women describe how their orgasms come in waves that flow through the body and prostate massage can give the same sensation to males. They are a full body orgasmic experience, hence why the area is regarded as the male g-spot erogenous zone contributing to male multiple orgasms. Many men report incredible sexual experiences when incorporating touch or massage of the prostate in a sexual setting.
Decrease risk of premature ejaculation
If you find you ejaculate and have very little control over when you climax, prostate massage can help. Since massaging the prostate regularly can decrease prostate inflammation, it has been linked to reducing premature ejaculation. When you have an excess of semen, the pressure longs to be released. Prostate milking releases this tension, leading you to be less sexually excited. Additionally, massaging the prostate can increase the strength of your PC muscles – the muscles located between your scrotum and rectum – giving you better control over your climax.
Helps with male impotence
The regular release of prostate fluid from the gland doesn’t just reduce cancer but helps in maintaining longer-lasting erections. When the prostate is inflamed or swollen, it makes healthy blood flow to the penis more difficult, resulting in cases of erectile dysfunction. This can be very frustrating for men, however prostate massaging can help with this very sensitive issue.
Prostate massage can reduce cancer risk
According to The Sperling Prostate Center in New York, massaging your prostate can actually reduce your risk of developing prostate cancer – one of the more serious cancers that plague the male population. While the reasons for this are not clear, it also seems that this topic is not supported as a fact by everyone in the health community, so it’s not really a fact I would rely on until further studies are completed.
Tips For Trying Prostate Massage Yourself
- Be cautious: When it comes to anal touch, you don’t want to just jump right in and go sticking things in your rear, all willy-nilly. The butt does not self-lubricate or naturally expand the way a vagina does. If you’re going to put something inside an anus, you need to prepare and proceed with caution. Above all, it should be a pleasurable experience.
- Clean up: Be sure the area is clean and free of any faecal matter before you begin. You don’t need to do an enema if you don’t want to, but you can. It’s about what makes you feel comfortable.
- Put a towel down: Avoid any messiness by simply placing a towel on top of any surface you’re using.
- Use lots and lots of lube: Lube is your friend when it comes to anal penetration. Try silicone lube as it maintains moisture much longer than water- and oil-based lubricants.
- Massage the outside and then move inward: Start to awaken your anal nerve endings by using lube and your fingertips, making small circles to become aroused. When you’re feeling ready, begin to insert your finger(s) very slowly, moving in the direction of your stomach searching for the prostate. You can also use a prostate massager – a toy designed for this kind of stimulation. Look for a beginner’s prostate massager if you are new to this.
Risks Associated With Prostate Massage
While prostate massage is safe when done correctly, rushing into it, not relaxing, or failing to use lube can result in injury. Additionally, anal penetration of any kind can worsen the symptoms of some rectal conditions. Here are a couple of things to bear in mind:
If done incorrectly, you could risk injury
If you don’t give anal penetration enough attention, time, and effort in order to prepare the anus, you risk pain or tearing. The anus, like any muscle, needs to be relaxed and stretched to take something inside of it.
Prostate massage can aggravate haemorrhoids
Be mindful of using prostate massagers – while generally very safe to use, the dangers of prostate massagers are in their ability to aggravate haemorrhoids and other rectal issues. A specialist prostate massage specialist will be able to advise you on this.
Where Can I Get A Prostate Massage?
If you’re looking to give prostate massage a go, consider talking with your partner to see if it’s something they would like to participate in. Remember, you can always try it on your own, but, be sure you take things slowly, do a lot of prep work to relax the anus, and allow yourself to let go into the sensation.
If you’re looking to explore prostate massage and want to have one performed by a true professional who knows exactly what they’re doing, you should try booking one with a reputable agency online. That way you can be in the safe hands of someone who really understands how to give a prostate massage for your maximum pleasure. Whichever path you take forward, I hope my article has given you an insight into prostate massage and it’s benefits.