Ever wondered what it’s really like being one of our tantric massage London girls?

At Karma Tantric, our masseuses are deeply skilled, emotionally intuitive, and — just like you — human. So we decided to lift the veil a little. Here’s what some of our masseuses shared when asked: What do you wish clients really understood?

Contents:

1. What First-Timers Always Get Wrong
2. Boundaries We Wish You Understood
3. What Turns Us On (and Off)
4. Our Most Surprising Clients
5. What We Love About the Job

1. What First-Timers Always Get Wrong

One of the most common misconceptions among first-time clients is that a tantric session is just a spa rub-down, but much more erotic — something goal-oriented, predictable, even transactional. In reality, it’s closer to a guided experience that unfolds moment to moment. There’s no script. And certainly no rush to finish.

“More often than not, I have many first-time clients come in for a tantric massage, without actually knowing what one is. They come in thinking it’s about getting touched and being turned on. They leave, still feeling satisfied, but realising the whole experience is about learning how to feel.” – Megan. 

Some are surprised by how emotional it can get. Others try to control the rhythm and get thrown off when the masseuse doesn’t follow their lead. But those who arrive curious and open — not demanding or performative — tend to leave the most blissed-out.

So here’s the truth: no, they’re not here to act out your fantasy in 15 minutes or so. But if you’re willing to slow down, breathe, and actually tune into your body — the pleasure will speak for itself.

Like the look of Megan, pictured above? Visit her profile to learn more about this gorgeous masseuse. Nervous about your first time? Read our guide on what to expect from a tantric massage.

 

2. Boundaries We Wish You Understood

Tantric massage is intimate. It’s sensual. But it’s not just sex — and it’s certainly not a free-for-all. Every Karma Girl has clear, firm boundaries. The best clients understand that respecting those boundaries isn’t just important — it’s what actually makes the experience better.

“I’ve had clients ask for extras five minutes in — before I’ve even said hello properly. If I feel disrespected, the session never really flows well. It becomes something I’m managing, not something I’m enjoying.” – Megan

“For me, a good session feels like a meaningful experience— not a transaction. But if someone tries to take more than what’s offered, I shut down. No amount of money makes that energy feel okay.” – Juliana

Clients sometimes assume that erotic energy means no limits — but in reality, it means more awareness. The space only becomes sacred when it’s built on mutual trust.

Some things we wish more people knew:

• Asking for extras is a guaranteed vibe killer — and it usually means you don’t understand tantra at all.
• Consent isn’t just about actions — it’s about energy. Mutual respect is everything.
• Clean body, calm mind, and good manners go a long way.

“When a client checks in with how I’m feeling, or thanks me properly afterwards? That sticks with me more than any tip ever has.” – Juliana

If you want the session to feel magnetic, powerful, unforgettable — start by honouring the space you’ve entered. These girls are not performers. They’re guides. And they work best when you let them lead with trust.

Want to see more of Juliana, pictured above? Visit her profile, and see why she was one of the most popular Karma girls in April. 

3. What Actually Turns Us On (and Off)

Not in a sexual way — but energetically, emotionally, humanly. What gets a tantric masseuse to open up in session? It’s not about your looks or confidence. It’s about presence. Respect. Attunement.

“The sexiest client I’ve ever had? A softly spoken guy who made eye contact, said thank you like he meant it, and didn’t try to direct the session. He let me lead. It was effortless.” – Eva

Like Eva, our girls are not looking to be dazzled — they’re looking for someone to feel with. Clients who don’t just show up clean in body, but grounded in their energy, tend to create the kind of chemistry you can’t fake.

What really turns them on (in the tantric sense)?

• Receptiveness: Clients who let go of control and trust the process — that opens the door to real intimacy.
• Sincerity: A simple thank-you, eye contact, or a soft breath at the right moment lands harder than any compliment.
• Awareness: Clients who pick up on non-verbal cues and tune in without needing instruction.

And what kills it fast?

• The power game: Subtle domination, bragging, or asking leading questions about boundaries — instant shutdown.
• The performer: Clients who fake moans, force arousal, or try to act ‘sexy’ take them out of the moment.
• The checklist mentality: “What does this include?” “Can I get more if I book longer?” Wrong approach entirely.

“A guy once said, ‘I’m not used to being looked at like this — I don’t think I’ve ever felt so content.’ That’s what I remember.” – Alara

You don’t have to be perfect. Just be real. That’s the turn-on.

To book your session with Alara, pictured above, visit her profile. Want to know how to create the best possible energy in your session? Read our ultimate guide to erotic massages.

 

4. The Clients Who Surprised Us Most

Some clients walk in with quietness. Nervous energy. Buttoned shirts and polite manners. And they walk out glowing — because when they feel safe, something clicks. And those are the sessions our girls never forget.

There’s a stereotype about who books tantra — lonely men, hyper-sexual types, or those looking to cheat. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Our girls see therapists, couples rediscovering each other after 40 years, spiritual seekers, single dads, single mums, teachers, trauma survivors — and yes, sometimes the awkward guy who’s never been held before in his life.

“One of my kindest clients was a mature couple. They were lovely and not the kind of people you would expect to book such a service. Another favourite of mine, who is now a regular, was a retired priest. I obviosuly can’t reveal too much about him, but he is honestly one of the loveliest people I have ever met.” – Maya. Visit her profile to see more of her pictures. 

Often, it’s the ‘alpha’ guys who freeze up once the session gets real — and it’s the shy, emotionally open ones who let the magic happen.

Who surprises our girls most?

• The quiet ones: Often the most emotionally attuned and respectful receivers.
• The older couples: Rediscovering connection and pleasure — often with more presence than younger clients.
• The ‘logical’ types: Therapists, doctors, engineers — they often become their most regular clients.

“One man told me, ‘I came because I was touch-starved. I left feeling like someone actually saw me.’” – Alyssa. Visit her profile to place your booking. 

Tantra isn’t about how you look or what you expect. It’s about what you’re open to feeling. And the clients who surprise our tantic massage specialists most… are the ones who actually let themselves feel.

Want to understand what tantric massage is like for other clients? Read our 10 tantric massage stories that’ll make you hot under the collar.

5. Why We Love This Work

It’s not the nudity. It’s not the compliments. It’s not even the pleasure — not really. What keeps these girls doing this work is witnessing real, unfiltered connection. That moment when someone stops performing and just… softens.

“A man once told me: ‘You’re the first person who’s ever touched me without expecting something back.’ I still think about that.” – Carolina. Check out her profile to place your booking. 

Tantric massage might look physical from the outside — but for the girls, it’s energetic work. It’s reading breath. Feeling into silences. Guiding someone back into a part of themselves they forgot how to access. That kind of witnessing is personal. And sometimes, profoundly healing.

“I love the moment just after the session — when the room is completely quiet and you can feel their nervous system has shifted. That’s when I know I’ve done my job.” – Victoria. Visit her profile to book your session with her.

They don’t do this because it’s easy. They do it because they believe in what happens when someone is truly seen, truly held, and truly allowed to receive. Not just touch — but care. Slowness. Reverence.

And when it lands, it’s beautiful for them too.

Ready to experience what it’s like to be fully received? Book your tantric massage today and let our girls guide you back to your body.