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The Ultimate Guide To Erotic Massage

What is an erotic massage exactly? Karma Tantric author, Erica Suarez-Hillingdon explains the different types

Welcome to the ultimate erotic massage guide, where we explore the art of sensual touch and its many benefits for physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

In this guide, we’ll delve into the world of erotic massage, dispel common misconceptions, and provide step-by-step instructions for giving an erotic massage. So, whether you’re a curious beginner or someone looking to enhance intimacy in your relationship, let’s embark on a journey of sensual pleasure and connection.

What is erotic massage?

People have always touched and caressed one another as a way of expressing affection, love, or lust, and this is the inclination at the root of erotic massage. However, erotic massage is a form of physical touch that goes beyond the realms of traditional therapeutic massage.

It involves the use of sensual techniques and gentle strokes, intended to stimulate the body’s erogenous zones and build sexual arousal. While often associated with romantic relationships, erotic massage can also be an empowering practice for self-discovery and self-care with many people performing it on themselves, or booking a professional sensual massage.

Erotic massage for couples

For couples, sensual massages make great foreplay but are also a blissful relaxation technique, as well as a way of becoming emotionally intimate with your partner. If you’re looking for a way to spice things up or strengthen your bond with your partner, you might consider exploring erotic massage. After all, what better way to reconnect with your lover than to spend time touching each other intimately. If you really want an sexy experience, why not book an erotic couples massage?

Erotic massage for singles

If you are happily single, a professional erotic masseuse may be a great option for you. It’s not always easy to be sexually active in today’s world if you are not in a relationship. Which is why so many singletons choose to book a professional sensual massage, to ease their sexual tensions and release any built up frustration.

Are erotic massages a new experience?

The practice of erotic massage has been around for centuries with various cultures exploring the art of sensual touch as a means of relaxation, pleasure, and intimacy. The full-body Nuru massage, for instance, comes from Japan. While in India, as early as 1800 BC, there are mentions of “Ayurvedic Massage” with a focus on sensuality.

In ancient cultures such as the Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans, massages were not only used for physical healing but also as a form of sensual indulgence. It was believed that massages could enhance overall well-being and bring balance to the body and mind.

In 17th-century Europe “genital massage” was often performed on women by a physician or a midwife with the aim to bring the woman to orgasm as a way of treating what was known as “female hysteria.”

Did you know? – At the point of sexual climax, we release oxytocin, AKA ‘the love hormone,’ and it acts as a natural antidote to the damage stress hormones can inflict on the body.

What are the benefits of erotic massage?

The mental and emotional aspects of erotic massage make it not just a physical act but also a powerful tool for emotional connection, self-discovery, and personal growth.

Physical benefits

  • Stress relief: Erotic massage is an excellent way to unwind and alleviate stress. The soothing and sensual touch involved in the massage releases feel-good hormones like endorphins, which help reduce stress and anxiety levels. As a result, you’ll experience a sense of relaxation and calmness, promoting improved overall well-being..
  • Muscle tension release: The gentle and rhythmic strokes used in erotic massage work wonders in relieving muscle tension and knots. Whether you’ve had a long day at work or experienced physical strain, the expert touch of an erotic massage can target specific muscle groups, promoting relaxation and easing any tightness or discomfort.
  • Enhanced circulation: Erotic massage can lead to improved blood flow throughout the body. The stimulating touch and movements applied during the massage help dilate blood vessels, allowing for better circulation. This increased blood flow delivers essential nutrients and oxygen to cells and tissues, promoting better overall health and vitality.

Mental and emotional benefits

  • Improved intimacy: Erotic massage can deepen emotional connections between partners, fostering a greater sense of intimacy. Erotic massage can also help you be a better lover, resolving emotional and sexual blocks or trauma that may be causing erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, teaching you to last longer, be more present during sex, and improve your performance overall.
  • Increased confidence: Engaging in erotic massage can be an empowering experience. Exploring and expressing one’s sensuality in a safe and loving environment can lead to increased self-confidence. As individuals discover the joy of giving and receiving pleasure, they become more comfortable with their bodies and desires, fostering a positive self-image and body positivity.
  • Mood enhancement: Erotic massage triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural “feel-good” chemicals. These endorphins create a sense of euphoria and relaxation, elevating mood and reducing feelings of anxiety and depression. The emotional benefits of erotic massage extend beyond the session itself, promoting a more positive outlook and emotional well-being in daily life.

As with any intimate experience, open communication and mutual consent are essential for creating a safe and fulfilling journey of sensuality and emotional intimacy.

What are the different types of erotic massage?

There are about as many different types of erotic massage as there are ice cream flavours, each offering their own specific techniques and benefits. While erotic massage can be performed by men or women, most masseuses are women.

Your massage can be more on the therapeutic end of the spectrum, like a Thai massage with a happy ending, or much much more on the intimate end of the spectrum, like a tantric massage.

Happy Ending Massage

To get right to the point, a happy ending massage is one that ends with an orgasm through manual stimulation of your penis. Women can also get their happy ending via fingering or clitoral stimulation which is also referred to as a Yoni massage. The fairytale term was first popularised in Asian massage parlours, but a happy ending massage can be coupled with any type of erotic massage.

Although the masseuse is sometimes nude while performing the massage, this is not always the case. You, on the other hand, can be either nude or covered with a towel. While not all massage providers will give happy ending massages, all professional tantric massage services, like Karma Tantric, will certainly do so.

Body To Body Massage

A body to body massage is any sensual massage where massage oil or lube is used while the masseuse massages her partner’s body using her entire body using body sliding techniques. While you’re always nude, some masseuses can leave their panties on, however it’s much better when they don’t. The full body to body contact makes this massage far more erotically charged than your usual, mechanical happy ending massage and the full body contact can make it sublime. There are also numerous health benefits achieved through body to body massage that make it very popular indeed.

Climax is typically still achieved via hand relief, however, the masseuse might also provide an orgasm for you with the simple friction of her body sliding or rubbing against yours. You can, of course, express a preference in advance if there’s a specific way you would like to climax. If body to body massage sounds like something you might want to try, discover the many different options available from Karma Tantric.

Nuru Massage

The word Nuru means slippery in Japanese, so Nuru massage is named for the way the masseuse uses a body to body technique to slip ‘n slide sensually all over your body. The Nuru massage gel used is traditionally made from Nuri Japanese seaweed known for its extremely lubricating and slippery texture. The masseuse uses her naked body to provide sensual touch and prime you into a state of unadulterated euphoria, finishing with a wonderful explosion of energy in the form of an orgasm.

Nuru massage may be one of the most sexually arousing erotic massages available, and has been practiced as a sensual massage ritual in Japan for years. It often involves very advanced body sliding techniques that are not easily achieved using regular massage oils and the ritual itself is almost spa like. It is no wonder why many people choose Nuru massage to ease their minds and bodies.

Soapy Massage

A soapy massage is exactly what it sounds like, a sexual massage involving water, soap and lots of fun!. The masseuse will first join you in a shower or bath and wash you thoroughly, from head to toe. Then, she will lay you down on a mattress meant for this purpose, and the lathering begins. The foam is produced in a variety of ways, such as in a small tub with shampoo, though some Turkish baths produce those bubbles from a ‘soap pillow’ (a bar of soap in what looks like a pillowcase).

What follows is another form of body to body massage. The masseuse uses her nude body as a massage tool, gliding back and forth in the soap. Traditionally performed on stone tables, most modern-day soapy massages forego this detail in favour of inflatable or otherwise waterproof mattresses. If this is not an option, the massage can simply begin in a bath or shower then be completed on a regular massage table or bed.

Tantric Massage

Tantra is the Sanskrit word for “woven together,” and refers to the sacred intimacy that can be experienced through sensual touch. While authentic tantric practice is a spiritual-erotic experience involving breathwork and eye gazing to foster deeper connection, the modern-day version is typically more of a body to body erotic massage. While authentic tantric practitioners aim to provide their client with a full-body orgasm that does not include ejaculation, in modern sessions orgasm is generally achieved.

When the recipient is a man, tantric massage can also be called a lingam massage, lingam being the Sanskrit word for penis. Tantric massage offers an incredible array of unexpected benefits. It can release mental and sexual tension, heal trauma, get to the root of premature ejaculation, help overcome erectile dysfunction, and raise overall confidence levels.

Yoni Massage

Yoni is the Sanskrit word that refers to the vagina or female genital area. Traditionally, a yoni masseuse carefully massages the vulva and vagina while the recipient does deep breathing exercises. The idea is to free mental and physical tensions in order to grow your capacity to receive pleasure. Orgasm is not the ultimate goal but it’s very likely and often proffered.

Modern-day yoni massage incorporates the stimulation of female genitalia in a body to body massage setting. It can be performed as more of a body to body erotic massage or a traditional tantric massage depending on the type of masseuse or service you choose to book. What’s important is that yoni massage is an erotic massage for women who are not necessarily lesbians but can be very straight!

Prostate Massage

Erotic prostate massage is the act of massaging the prostate, mainly for the pure pleasure factor, as well as a bevy of other sexual and health benefits. The masseuse inserts her fingers a couple of inches into your rectum and very slowly works up to a ‘come hither’ motion which rubs deliciously up against the prostate or ‘P-spot.’ Both penis and prostate stimulation are combined to bring the recipient to an intense orgasm.

Prostate massage can be like a reset button for ejaculation issues or any difficulty maintaining erections, increasing blood flow to the area. On a therapeutic level, it can also help treat prostatitis, a common inflammation of the prostate gland. Perhaps most excitingly, it can offer you more powerful orgasms than you’ve ever experienced before.

Couples Erotic Massage

A couple’s erotic massage can consist of any of the previously mentioned erotic massage types, but for couples. Many couples opt for couples erotic massages to spice up their sex life, learn to better pleasure each other or forge a stronger intimate bond. The masseuse will take you through a tantric journey, using warm oils to massage both you and your partner, slowly and gradually bringing you both to the edge multiple times until you reach a mindblowing mutual happy ending.

Four Hand Massage

A four hand erotic massage can consist of any of the previously mentioned erotic massage types, but is provided by two massage therapists instead of one. Your massage might consist of four hands, or two entirely nude bodies, depending on what type of erotic massage you choose however it will almost certainly be a massage experience to remember. Having two therapists working on you simultaneously makes for deliciously overpowering sensations of touch and endless avenues to arousal.


How to give a sensual massage

If you’ve been wondering how to give your partner an erotic massage but haven’t any idea how, you’ve come to the right place. While what happens in an erotic massage session is up to both of your personal preferences and desires, learning a few sensual massage techniques can make the experience that much more sensual and game-changing.

Here we offer you a step-by-step erotic massage guide with sensual massage tips you can easily put to practice:

Set the mood

Building the right mood in a relaxed atmosphere is key to an explosive ending. You might dim the lights, light scented candles or incense, or use an essential oil diffuser to begin creating your sensual space. Slow, soothing rhythmic music is also a great choice.

Use sensual oils

Don’t settle for the massive bottle of moisturiser sitting in your bathroom. Instead, use specialist massage oils designed to enhance sexual pleasure. Alternatively, try coconut oil, cocoa butter or CBD massage oil. Make sure you choose something with a scent your partner will enjoy.

Go slow

Erotic massage is an art, and the way you touch your partner can make all the difference in creating a deeply sensual experience. Never head straight to your partner’s anus or genitals. Before diving into the most sensitive areas, start by building anticipation. Begin with gentle caresses on non-erogenous zones like the arms, back, and legs to relax your partner into the massage.

Knead and rubbing

Address the larger muscle groups first, this is where kneading and rubbing techniques come into play. Apply gentle pressure and circular motions on areas like the back, shoulders, and thighs to release tension and knots. The kneading action improves blood circulation and eases muscle tightness, promoting relaxation and comfort.

Be a tease

After giving your partner a full body massage, it’s time for the really fun stuff. Be a tease by getting very close to touching their genitals or nipples without actually going there. For example, instead of going straight for their lingam or yoni, try massaging their thigh crease–you’re sure to drive them crazy.

Use of feathers or soft fabrics

Incorporating props like feathers or soft fabrics can add an extra layer of sensory delight to your erotic massage. The soft and delicate touch of a feather trailing along the skin or the sensation of silk can create a tingling, pleasurable feeling. These textures can heighten sensitivity and bring an element of surprise, making the experience more playful and engaging.

Body-to-body contact

Incorporating body-to-body contact adds an extra layer of intimacy and sensuality to the massage. Allow your your whole body to glide against your partner’s, creating a connection that goes beyond physical touch. This technique fosters a deeper emotional bond, intensifying the pleasure and forging a strong sense of intimacy between you and your partner.

Explore erogenous zones

Erogenous zones are areas of the body that are particularly sensitive and responsive to touch. While the erogenous zones may vary from person to person, some common ones include the neck, ears, inner thighs, and breasts. When exploring these your partner’s erogenous zones during your massage, pay close attention to your partner’s reactions and feedback. Every individual’s preferences are unique, so take the time to discover what brings the most pleasure to your partner.

Tantric breathing

Tantric breathing is a fundamental aspect of sensual massage. As you and your partner synchronise your breathing patterns, you create a harmonious and connected experience. The deep, rhythmic breathing not only enhances relaxation but also intensifies the emotional and energetic connection between you. This shared breathwork deepens the sense of trust and intimacy, taking the massage to a profoundly fulfilling level.

Begin stimulating

After you’ve teased your partner enough, you get to touch their most delicious parts. There will be major sexual tension at this point, so even a light touch should be almost unbearable. Start with slow clitoral stimulation or a light hand job, and gradually move to fingering, a tighter hand job or oral.

Reaching climax

After all this, there’s a very good chance your partner will climax. If needed, do all you can to help them get over that edge. After they do, they’ll be incredibly relaxed. Then, if you want to put a real juicy cherry on top, get naked and cuddle them.

Where can I get an erotic massage in London?

You can either put this erotic massage guide to use and ask your partner for one, or for an out of this world erotic massage experience, book a massage with a professional. At Karma Tantric, all the girls are qualified to give a erotic massage, meaning you’re guaranteed a happy ending, everytime.


Is erotic massage only for couples?

No, erotic massage can be enjoyed by individuals and couples alike. It’s a personal exploration of sensuality and self-discovery.

What if I feel uncomfortable during the massage?

If you feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to communicate with your partner and adjust the experience accordingly.

Can erotic massage improve my sex life?

Yes, erotic massage can improve sexual intimacy, helping couples understand each other’s desires and fostering a deeper connection.

Is there any specific oil I should use for erotic massage?

While there is no specific oil required, using high-quality, natural massage oils can enhance the experience.

Are there any risks associated with erotic massage?

When conducted with consent and care, erotic massage is generally safe. However, individuals with certain medical conditions should consult a healthcare professional before trying it.


Erica Suarez-Hillingdon

Tantra Massage & Couples Therapy Expert

Erica is the Editor of Karma Tantric Magazine and expert in all things Tantra & Tantric Massage. She specialises in helping men, women and couples unleash their sexual potential through her tantra teachings. | Read More