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We are all certainly aware of how popular erotic massage in London is, but what exactly is it and which type is right for you? Although there is no single erotic massage definition, sensual massage is not only a practice that’s an integral part of many couples’ sensual repertoire, but also how many singles get their sexual frustration relieved in private.
For couples, massages make great foreplay but are also a blissful relaxation technique, as well as a way of becoming emotionally intimate with your partner. If you’re looking for a way to spice things up or strengthen your bond with your partner, you might consider exploring erotic massage. After all, what better way to reconnect with your lover than to spend time touching each other intimately.
If you are happily single, a professional erotic masseuse may be a great option for you. It’s not always easy to be sexually active in today’s world if you are not in a relationship. That’s why so many singletons choose to opt for a professional sensual massage, to ease their sexual tensions and release any built up frustration.
People have always touched and caressed one another as a way of expressing affection, love, or lust, and this is the inclination at the root of erotic massage. All types of erotic massage, after all, are a way of using tactile stimulation to give pleasure–whether or not that pleasure includes sexual release depends. As far as erotic massage techniques go, there’s a lot to explore, and this comprehensive erotic massage guide has been compiled for your purest pleasure.
What is the history of erotic massage?
Erotic massage can be traced back to many parts of the world at many different times–indeed, all ancient cultures have their version. Asia is generally considered the wellspring of healing touch as an art form. The full-body Nuru massage, for instance, comes from Japan. While in India, as early as 1800 BC, there are mentions of “Ayurvedic Massage” with a focus on sensuality.
From Asia, these techniques made their way to Europe and the rest of us. In 17th-century Europe “genital massage” was performed on women by a physician or a midwife. The aim was to bring the woman to orgasm as a way of treating what was known as “female hysteria.” Although much about the origins of erotic massage around the world remains a mystery, one thing’s for certain: we’ve been doing this for a very long time.
Erotic massage in history
- Erotic massage existed in many different forms in most ancient cultures
- Asia is commonly considered our strongest link to the art of erotic touch
- Erotic massage as medical treatment can be traced back to the 17th-century Western world
What’s an erotic massage?
Erotic massage is the use of massage techniques focused on the recipient’s erogenous zones. Typically, this includes a combination of traditional massage techniques with sensual strokes. Depending on personal preferences and on the type of erotic massage, it can either remain lightly arousing or become more intensely erotic.
Erotic massage is used by some as a part of sex, and by others as sex therapy. Either way, the idea behind giving an erotic massage is to give pleasure to the recipient through touch. An erotic massage usually leads to orgasm, or a ‘happy ending’ but it doesn’t have to.
Understanding Erotic Massage
- Erotic massage techniques combine traditional massage with erotic touch
- The main principle of erotic massage is to give pleasure without expecting reciprocity
- The level of eroticism and the potential for climax is left to personal preferences
What are the benefits of erotic massage?
There are many holistic benefits of erotic massage which touch on mental, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. Erotic massage can offer a seductive release from stress and anxiety thanks to the release of ‘happy hormones’ serotonin and dopamine. This in turn can positively affect your general productivity and positivity. It can also facilitate the fulfilment of emotional intimacy, which can sometimes be difficult to find in our modern, busy world.
Erotic massage can also help you be a better lover, resolving emotional and sexual blocks or trauma that may be causing erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, teaching you to last longer, be more present during sex, and improve your performance overall. In turn, this can be a real boost to your sex life and your personal confidence in general. There’s certainly no doubt that there are many positive aspects of erotic massage that can improve your life considerably.
What are the different types of erotic massage?
There are about as many different types of erotic massage as there are ice cream flavours, each offering their own specific techniques and benefits. While erotic massage can be performed by men or women, most masseuses are women. Your massage can be more on the therapeutic end of the spectrum, like a Thai massage with a happy ending, or much much more on the intimate end of the spectrum, like a tantric massage.
Happy Ending Massage
To get right to the point, a happy ending massage is one that ends with a hand job. Women, however, can also get their happy ending via fingering or clitoral stimulation which is sometimes referred to as a Yoni massage (see below). The fairytale term was first popularized in Asian massage parlours, but a happy ending massage can be coupled with any type of erotic massage.
Although the masseuse is sometimes nude while performing the massage, this is not always the case. The client or recipient can be either nude or covered with a towel. While not all massage providers will give happy ending massages, all professional tantric massage services, like Karma Tantric, will certainly do so.
Body To Body Massage
A body to body massage is any sensual massage where oil or lube is used while the masseuse massages the client using her entire body using body sliding techniques. While the client is always nude, some masseuses can leave their panties on, however its much better when they don’t. The full body to body contact makes this massage far more erotically charged than your usual, mechanical happy ending massage and the full body contact can make it sublime. There are also numerous health benefits achieved through body to body massage that make it very popular indeed.
Climax is typically still achieved via hand relief, however, the masseuse might also provide an orgasm for you with the simple friction of her body sliding or rubbing against yours. You can, of course, express a preference in advance if there’s a specific way you would like to climax. If body to body massage sounds like something you might want to try, there are numerous amazing types to choose from.
The word Nuru means slippery in Japanese, so Nuru massage is named for the way the masseuse uses a body to body technique to slip ‘n slide sensually all over her client’s body. The Nuru massage gel used is traditionally made from Nuri Japanese seaweed known for its extremely lubricating and slippery texture. The masseuse uses her naked body to melt sensual touch and prime you into a state of unadulterated euphoria, finishing with a wonderful explosion of energy in the form of an orgasm.
Nuru massage may be one of the most sexually arousing erotic massages out there and has been practiced as a sensual massage ritual in Japan for years. It often involves very advanced body sliding techniques that are not easily achieved using regular massage oils and the ritual itself is almost spa like. It is no wonder why many people choose Nuru massage to ease their minds and bodies.
A soapy massage is exactly what it sounds like, a massage involving water, soap and lots of fun!. The masseuse will first join the client in a shower or bath and wash him thoroughly, from head to toe. Then, she will lay him down on a mattress meant for this purpose, and the lathering begins. The foam is produced in a variety of ways, such as in a small tub with shampoo, though some Turkish baths produce those bubbles from a ‘soap pillow’ (a bar of soap in what looks like a pillowcase).
What follows is another form of body to body massage. The masseuse uses her nude body as a massage tool, gliding back and forth in the soap. Traditionally performed on stone tables, most modern-day soapy massages forego this detail in favour of inflatable or otherwise waterproof mattresses.If this is not an option, the massage can simply begin in a bath or shower then be completed on a regular massage table or bed.
Tantra is the Sanskrit word for “woven together,” and refers to the sacred intimacy that can be experienced through sensual touch. While authentic tantric practice is a spiritual-erotic experience involving breathwork and eye gazing to foster deeper connection, the modern-day version is typically more of a body to body erotic massage. While authentic tantric practitioners aim to provide their client with a full-body orgasm that does not include ejaculation, in modern sessions orgasm is generally achieved.
When the recipient is a man, tantric massage can also be called a lingam massage, lingam being the Sanskrit word for penis. Tantric massage offers an incredible array of unexpected benefits. It can release mental and sexual tension, heal trauma, get to the root of premature ejaculation, help overcome erectile dysfunction, and raise overall confidence levels.
Yoni is the Sanskrit word that refers to the vagina or female genital area. Traditionally, a yoni masseuse carefully massages the vulva and vagina while the recipient does deep breathing exercises. The idea is to free mental and physical tensions in order to grow the client’s capacity to receive pleasure. Orgasm is not the ultimate goal but it’s very likely and often proffered.
Modern-day yoni massage incorporates the stimulation of female genitalia in a body to body massage setting. It can be performed as more of a body to body erotic massage or a traditional tantric massage depending on the type of masseuse or service you choose to book. What’s important is that yoni massage is an erotic massage for women who are not necessarily lesbians but can be very straight!
Erotic prostate massage is the act of massaging the prostate for the pure pleasure factor, as well as a bevy of other sexual and health benefits. The masseuse inserts her fingers a couple of inches into the rectum and very slowly works up to a ‘come hither’ motion which rubs deliciously up against the prostate or ‘P-spot.’ Both penis and prostate stimulation are combined to bring the recipient to an intense orgasm.
Prostate massage can be like a reset button for ejaculation issues or any difficulty maintaining erections, increasing blood flow to the area. On a therapeutic level, it can also help treat prostatitis, a common inflammation of the prostate gland. Perhaps most excitingly, it can offer the recipient more powerful orgasms than he’s ever experienced before.
Couples Erotic Massage
A couple’s erotic massage can consist of any of the previously mentioned erotic massage types, but for couples. Many couples opt for couples erotic massages to spice up their sex life, learn to better pleasure each other or forge a stronger intimate bond. The masseuse will take you through a tantric journey, using warm oils to massage both you and your partner, slowly and gradually bringing you both to the edge multiple times until you reach a mindblowing mutual happy ending.
Four Hand Massage
A four hand erotic massage can consist of any of the previously mentioned erotic massage types, but is provided by two massage therapists instead of one. Your massage might consist of four hands, or two entirely nude bodies, depending on what type of erotic massage you choose however it will almost certainly be a massage experience to remember. Having two therapists working on you simultaneously makes for deliciously overpowering sensations of touch and endless avenues to arousal.
How To Give An Erotic Massage
If you’ve been wondering how to give your partner an erotic massage but haven’t any idea how, you’ve come to the right place. While what happens in an erotic massage session is up to both of your personal preferences and desires, heeding a few key tips can make the experience that much more sensual and game-changing.
Here we offer you a step-by-step erotic massage instructional you can easily put to practice.
Set the mood
If you’re giving your partner a massage, you have some idea about what they like in terms of building the right mood. You might dim the lights, light candles or incense, or use an essential oil diffuser to begin creating your sensual space. Slow, rhythmic music is also a great choice.
Use sensual oils
Don’t settle for the massive bottle of moisturizer sitting in your bathroom. Instead, try massage oils designed to enhance sexual pleasure. Alternatively, try coconut oil, cocoa butter or CBD masshttps://karmatantric.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=62857&action=edit&classic-editor#age oil. Make sure you choose something with a scent your partner will enjoy.
Never head straight to your partner’s anus or genitals. Start by massaging their whole body, helping them to relax. Make sure you’re taking your time and focusing on each muscle before moving to the next. This way, by the time you do get to their penis or vagina, they’re in the perfect space to receive you.
Be a tease
After giving your partner a full body massage, it’s time for the really fun stuff. Be a tease by getting very close to touching their genitals or nipples without actually going there. For example, instead of going straight for their lingam or yoni, try massaging their thigh crease–you’re sure to drive them crazy.
After you’ve teased them enough, you get to touch their most delicious parts. There will be major sexual tension at this point, so even a light touch should be almost unbearable. Start with slow clitoral stimulation or a light hand job, and gradually move to fingering, a tighter hand job or oral.
After all this, there’s a very good chance your partner will climax. If needed, do all you can to help them get over that edge. After they do, they’ll be incredibly relaxed. Then, if you want to put a real juicy cherry on top, get naked and cuddle them.