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The ultimate beginner’s guide to getting erotic massage

Karma Tantric author Erica Suarez-Hillingdon provides the ultimate beginner's guide to getting erotic massage.

Erotic massage is a sensual and intimate form of human touch that aims to provide recipients with heightened pleasure and relaxation. It goes beyond the boundaries of traditional massage by incorporating elements of pleasure, arousal, and intimacy. This is a naked massage which involves the exploration and stimulation of your erogenous zones to increase sexual energy and induce a state of blissful sensuality.

So, whether you’re curious about experiencing an erotic massage for the first time or looking to further your understanding of this ancient art form, this beginner’s guide will provide you with a comprehensive understanding of erotic massage, from its origins and benefits, to the techniques used and proper etiquette to follow.

But first, let’s properly explore tantric massage.

What are erotic massages?

Erotic massage is a type of full body massage that involves the use of massage oil and sensual touch and strokes to stimulate the erogenous zones of the body. It is designed to awaken and intensify the recipient’s sexual energy, promoting relaxation, arousal, and overall well-being.

While it can be a profoundly sensual experience that enhances your sex life, it is important to note that erotic massage is not primarily a sexual act.

Origins and cultural significance of tantric massages

Tantric massage has its origins in ancient Eastern cultures, particularly in Hinduism and Buddhism. It is deeply rooted in the philosophy and practices of Tantra, an ancient spiritual tradition that originated in India around 5th to 6th century AD.

Tantra, which means “expansion” or “liberation,” encompasses various spiritual and ritualistic practices aimed at transcending the limitations of the physical world and attaining spiritual enlightenment. Tantra views the human body, including its sexual energy, as a sacred vessel for spiritual growth and transformation.

In Tantric philosophy, sexual energy, known as Kundalini, is seen as a powerful force that can be harnessed to awaken higher states of consciousness. Tantric massages, along with other practices, serve as a means to channel and expand this energy throughout the body.

Historically, Tantric massages were part of elaborate rituals performed by priests, yogis, and spiritual practitioners in temples and ashrams. These rituals were designed to connect individuals with their divine essence and unlock the full potential of their sexual energy.

Over time, the practice of Tantric massages spread beyond the temples and became more accessible to the general population. Today, Tantric massages are practiced and celebrated across the world, often with adaptations to suit modern contexts and cultural sensitivities.

Differentiating tantric massage from other forms of body massage

Erotic massage differs from therapeutic and clinical forms of massage in that unlike traditional massages which focus solely on physical relaxation and pain relief, erotic massage aims to explore and heighten sensual pleasure, incorporating a variety of techniques that stimulate the erogenous zones, promoting an enhanced state of arousal and intimacy.

What are the benefits of erotic massage?

Physical benefits

Beyond the undeniable pleasure it provides, erotic massage offers numerous physical benefits. It can help relieve muscle tension, reduce stress levels, improve blood circulation, and enhance overall body awareness. The sensuous touch and intimacy involved in erotic massage can also boost the production of endorphins and oxytocin, promoting a sense of well-being and relaxation.

Emotional and mental benefits

The intimate nature of erotic massage extends beyond the physical realm, offering significant emotional and mental benefits. It can create a safe space for self-exploration, allowing individuals to embrace their desires, overcome insecurities, and build a positive body image. Erotic massage can also foster a deeper connection between partners, enhancing trust, communication, and emotional intimacy.

What should you expect during a tantra massage?

For first timers visiting an erotic massage parlour, it can be an intimidating and nerve-wracking experience, but this is a beginners guide for a reason…

During a tantra massage, as mentioned previously, the focus is not solely on experiencing physical pleasure but on spiritual and energetic connection as well. To achieve this, you should expect:

  1. A tantra massage typically takes place in a serene and comfortable environment, with soft lighting, relaxing music, and aromas of sensual massage oils. A soothing ambiance is essential to promote feelings of relaxation, tranquility, and a sense of sacredness.
  2. Before the session begins, you and your massage therapist should have a conversation to establish trust, set boundaries, and discuss intentions and your expectations, so that both of you are comfortable and on the same page throughout the experience.
  3. The tantra massage session usually begins with you lying comfortably on a massage table or mat, in a massage studio, or your therapist’s apartment. Your masseuse may guide you through breathing exercises and relaxation techniques to help you enter a state of deep relaxation and presence.
  4. Tantra massage involves slow, intentional, and mindful touch across the whole body. Your masseuse may use their hands, forearms, or even their entire body to provide the massage. The light touch is gentle, flowing, and focused on awakening the body’s energy centers, known as chakras. It is incredibly sensual.
  5. Tantra massage aims to awaken and circulate your sexual energy throughout your entire body, rather than focusing solely on genital stimulation. Your masseuse may use specific techniques, such as long strokes, pressure points, and energy work, to awaken and expand the your energy.
  6. As the massage progresses, you may experience waves of pleasure and heightened sensations. The focus is on building and containing sexual energy within your body, rather than seeking immediate release.
  7. Tantric massage recognises the interconnectedness of the physical, emotional, and energetic aspects of a person. It provides a safe space for you to express and release any emotions or tensions that may arise during the session.
  8. As the massage comes to an end, your masseuse will gently guide you back to a state of relaxation. They may offer a closing ritual or ceremony to honour the shared experience and help you integrate the energy and insights gained during the session.


Different types of techniques used in erotic massage

Because erotic massage differs greatly from traditional massage, you may not be familiar with the different types of techniques your massage therapist could use on you to awaken your senses and elicit pleasure. A few of the more commonly used techniques include:

Sensual touch and stroking

Sensual touch and stroking form the foundation of erotic massage. These techniques involve using varying pressures, rhythms, and patterns of touch to create a pleasurable and relaxing experience. Gentle caresses, feather-light strokes, and long, flowing movements across the body can evoke a heightened sense of sensitivity and arousal.

Feather and fingertip teasing

Feather and fingertip teasing involve using feathers, soft brushes, or fingertips to gently stimulate the skin and erogenous zones. The delicate touch and tickling sensations can generate tantalising waves of pleasure, awakening the nerve endings and intensifying the overall experience.

Body-to-body contact

Body-to-body contact involves the use of your partner’s body, such as the chest, abdomen, or thighs, to glide and slide sensually over your body. This technique creates a deeper level of intimacy and connection, allowing for the transfer of energy and heightened sensory stimulation.

Tantric massage techniques

Tantric massage techniques are specialised forms of erotic massage that focus on specific principles, incorporating elements of breathwork, meditation, and energy circulation to unlock heightened states of pleasure and spiritual connection.

What is the correct etiquette for using erotic massage parlours?

To ensure a respectful and enjoyable experience for all parties involved, we encourage you to adhere to proper etiquette and guidelines during your erotic massage session. Consider the following:

Consent and respect

Consent is of utmost importance in any intimate experience. At Karma Tantric, our masseuses will always seek to obtain explicit consent from you before initiating any form of touch or exploration. They will continue to ask for your consent throughout the massage, as your experience intensifies. They will respect your boundaries, listen to your feedback, and never pressure or coerce you into any activity you’re uncomfortable with.

Hygiene and cleanliness

Whether you attend an in-call at one of our massage parlours, or an out-call at your masseuse’s apartment, maintaining good personal hygiene is essential for a positive and hygienic massage experience. Take a shower or bath before the session, ensuring that you arrive clean and fresh.

Payment and professionalism

If you’re seeking the services of a professional erotic masseuse, discuss the payment terms and any expectations in advance. Maintain a professional demeanour throughout the session and show appreciation for their skills and expertise.

Exploring the different erotic massage styles at Karma Tantric

Erotic massage encompasses a wide range of styles, each offering a unique experience. Some of the more popular forms of erotic massage we offer our discerning clients, for example, include:

Happy Ending Massage

A happy ending massage is an erotic massage that takes you to a state of complete ecstasy, by typically concluding with manual stimulation of the genitals to provide you with sexual release or orgasm. Using specialist techniques, your masseuse will bring you to the brink and back again, slowly intensifying your pleasure towards a truly euphoric release.

Tantric Massage

Tantric massage combines elements of ancient Eastern philosophies, breathwork, and energy circulation to create a deeply spiritual and pleasurable experience. It aims to awaken and channel sexual energy throughout your body, resulting in profound states of bliss and connection.

Nuru Massage

Originating from Japan, Nuru massage involves the use of a special seaweed gel. Your masseuse uses their entire body to slide and glide over yours, creating an intensely sensual and slippery experience. Nuru massage promotes deep relaxation, heightened arousal, and an increased sense of intimacy.

Lingam and Yoni Massage

Lingam massage focuses on stimulating and the male genitalia, while yoni massage is centred around pleasuring the female genitalia. Both techniques incorporate elements of sensual touch, gentle strokes, and energy work to promote pleasure, healing, and a deeper understanding of one’s own sexuality.

Our top tips for maximising your pleasure during your erotic massage

To make the most out of your erotic massage experience, consider the following tips:

Focus on the sensation and your breath

Be present in the moment and focus on the sensations arising in your body. Pay attention to the touch, temperature, and pressure, allowing yourself to fully immerse in the experience. Deep, conscious breathing can enhance relaxation and intensify the pleasure.

Relax and surrender to the experience

Let go of any expectations or performance pressures. Relax your body and mind, surrendering to the touch and guidance of your partner or practitioner. Embrace vulnerability and allow yourself to fully receive the sensations and pleasure.

Experiment with different techniques

Feel free to ask your masseuse to explore and experiment with various techniques, positions, and levels of intensity. Communicate with them throughout the massage on what feels pleasurable and enjoyable. Everyone is unique, so be open to discovering what works best for you.

After the tantric massage ends

After an erotic massage session, we encourage our clients to practice self-care and integrate the experience into your daily life. Consider the following:

Self-care practices

Engage in activities that promote self-nurturing and relaxation. Take a warm bath, practice meditation, or engage in gentle stretching to soothe your body and mind. You’ve just reached new levels of sensual energy and you need to come back down to earth gently.

Hydrate yourself by drinking plenty of water and nourish your body with healthy foods.

Emotional processing

Reflect on the emotions and sensations that arose during the massage. Journaling or discussing your experience with a trusted partner or friend can help you process any feelings that emerged. Embrace any newfound insights or shifts in your perception of pleasure and intimacy.


Erotic massage offers a gateway to the exploration of sensuality, pleasure, and intimacy. Now that you understand its origins, benefits, techniques, and etiquette, why not embark on your own journey of self-discovery and connection? Book a tantric massage with Karma Tantric today and discover the world of erotic massage for yourself.


Is erotic massage the same as a sexual service?

No, erotic massage focuses on sensual touch, arousal, and pleasure, but it does not involve sexual intercourse or any explicit sexual activities.

Can I perform an erotic massage on myself?

Yes, self-pleasure and self-massage can be a powerful way to connect with your own body and explore your sensuality.

What should I do if I feel uncomfortable during an erotic massage?

Communication is key. If you’re feeling shy, or feel uncomfortable at any point, express your feelings to your masseuse and request adjustments or a pause in the session.

How often should I engage in erotic massage?

How often you have an erotic massage is a deeply personal choice. It can vary depending on your desires, availability, and relationship dynamics. Experiment and find a frequency that works best for you. But know this, all of the girls at Karma Tantric are available to treat you day or night.


Erica Suarez-Hillingdon

Tantra Massage & Couples Therapy Expert

Erica is the Editor of Karma Tantric Magazine and expert in all things Tantra & Tantric Massage. She specialises in helping men, women and couples unleash their sexual potential through her tantra teachings. | Read More