The Ultimate Yoni Massage Guide - How To Do Yoni

How To Give A Yoni Massage Like A Professional

Our resident tantric massage expert Erica Suarez-Hillingdon, reveals all the tips and techniques you need to know to give the best Yoni Massage.

For those of you who have been wondering what is a yoni massage, I would like to take some time to delve deep into this mysterious practice and share with you exactly what is a yoni massage and how to massage a vagina, either on your partner or yourself. Follow the instructions in this yoni massage guide to learn some tips to help you master this orgasmic vagina massage technique and check out our infographic below.

What Is Yoni Massage Therapy?

In the practice of tantra, a real yoni massage is the ritual of erotic connectivity between a man and a woman or two females focusing on massaging the parts of a vagina known as the yoni area. Yoni is defined as vagina in Sanskrit which can be interpreted as a sacred space. Traditionally, a yoni practitioner carefully massages the vulva and vagina whilst the receiver performs breathing exercises. The idea is that both mental and physical tensions are freed, resulting in being able to take pleasure from the delicate yet enchanting tantric touches of another man or woman. Orgasm is not mandatory but a welcomed side effect!

Did you know? – In a recent survey, 60% of straight women said that they would consider a yoni massage performed by another woman.

Setting The Environment

Tantra is a holistic practice and is not all about sex and orgasm – it’s about the journey. So before the actual yoni massage is performed and any intimate touching takes place, it’s important to set an accommodating atmosphere in order to prepare your mind and body, fully relax and let go of stress.

  • Set the temperature to a comfortable level.Turn on a heater if it’s too cold or let some fresh air in if it’s too stuffy and hot.
  • Create ambience with some mood lighting. Dim the light a little or use a scented candle to tingle the senses.
  • Play some calming and romantic.Create a sexy atmosphere and get frisky by moving to some music.
  • Ensure complete privacy. You don’t want to get interrupted by any guests, roommates or children so make sure you choose a quiet, private space.
  • Prepare your mind.Traditional yoni massage is a spiritual practice so preparing your mind through meditative breathing exercises will improve your experience.
  • Prepare your body.Feel your best by making sure both you and your partner are clean and any fingernails trimmed nicely.

Start To Breathe Together

Breathing is central to the art of tantra and authentic yoni massage. It can allow you to completely and freely let go of both mental and physical tension (down there). It can also allow you to better connect with your partner. This will tremendously enhance your yoni massage experience and allow you to take in all the spiritual and therapeutic benefits so it should not be overlooked.

The following yoni breathing technique is designed to draw blood into the vagina, thereby enriching your yoni massage:

  1. Start by sitting upright facing each other
  2. Exhale very deeply together concentrating the energy in the belly area
  3. Close the mouth then inhale softly through the nostrils
  4. Hold the breath for seven seconds, keeping in sync with your partner
  5. Exhale completely for eight seconds through the mouth and lower abdomen
  6. Repeat the exercise three more times

Did you know? – The male equivalent to the yoni massage is the lingam massage – with lingam being the Sanskrit translation for phallus.

Start With The Breasts

Instead of heading straight to the vaginal area as a way to warm-up, a more appropriate way to initiate touching is by starting with a gentle tantric massage of the body and breasts. Remember that a woman generally takes a little longer to become aroused than a man, so the aim is to build up arousal slowly.

Massaging the naval and stomach area is a great way to start as that area has lots of nerve endings. Gently massage the belly with some oil, slowly caressing the chest area, rib cage, lower belly and between breasts. This whole area is often ignored when lovemaking but is very effective when igniting arousal.

When it’s clear that the body is beginning to heat up, now the breasts and nipples can receive more attention. However before actually touching the nipples, begin with gentle caresses of the breasts and then move onto playing with the areola. The body will start to respond to this so now the nipples can receive some love with very gentle pinches, teases and circling actions. It’s important to not overdo this and to alternate the strength of the touches.

Yoni Massage Techniques

Now that the scene is set, the mind is prepared through breathing and the body is aroused, she should be ready to receive her yoni massage. Be mindful that, unlike most people assume, penetration is not necessarily required. The focus is around the other areas of the vagina to increase the blood flow to the nerve endings, so try and be open minded to avoid going too far internally. Below is a basic step-by-step guide on yoni massage techniques to get you started:

Circling the Yoni

Start by gently massaging around the clitoris, bringing sensation to the area but not directly on it. Some females will have different thresholds of sensitivity here as this is where most of the nerve endings meet, hence why the body hides the tip of the clitoris with a small hood. Small circular movements using two or three fingers around the clitoris hood should be performed slowly with extra attention to ensuring the touch is slow and mindful.

It should be more of an exploratory style with varied circle sizes starting from large circles further away from the clitoris, moving into smaller circles as you progress. Try to imagine you are lightly pushing blood flow to your target clit area, which sometimes, but not always, can be visibly seen as it starts to slightly enlarge and swell.

When your circles have become so small that they embark on the clitoris hood, ensure you massage the skin here very gently and maintain circular movement in your touch. Avoid retracting the hood of the clitoris as this will expose the very sensitive tip, which may not be ready for direct touch stimulation.

yoni massage technique - circling

Lip Syncing

One of the most overlooked areas of the yoni is the labia. These are the lips that mark the entrance to the internal vaginal area. Sometimes these will be externally evident however on many females they are almost completely concealed by the pelvis skin. These lips are also populated with a large amount of nerve endings which means they are a perfect area to stimulate for arousal.

Once located, rub your fingers around each lip, making sure to be mindful and touch each crevasse and contour slowly. You can try working on the outer areas first then move to the inner parts after. Take consideration not to let your fingers wander too far into the internal parts of the yoni at this point.

yoni massage technique - lip synching

The Push and Pull

Place one finger on the left and one to the right of the clitoris hood. Use a push and pull technique to retract and reveal the tip, then conceal it again with your next movement. This is similar to how you would approach masturbation of the penis, with the clitoris head being the equivalent of the penis tip.

Apply only mild pressure to each side and again try to avoid hard pressure on the very top of the clitoris. Your speed should be very slow at first, slightly faster as you progress with alternating pressure to evoke stimulation and sensation. As you continue, you can attempt to alternately press each finger as you push and pull to enhance the clitoral massage.

Yoni technique - push and pull.

The Big Finish

It’s important to note that orgasm is not the purpose of all yoni massages, in fact, in some authentic tantric techniques, it is actually avoided. For those of you who would like to complete the yoni session with an orgasm, which let’s face it, its most of us, you can proceed with the next step.

Start to consider the yoni area as a whole now, with multiple areas to be stimulated in combination. Run your fingers from the very top of the vagina, over the clit with a little more pressure than before, then down around the lips and vaginal opening. Use a rhythmical touch to now proceed from the bottom up and repeat, adjusting pressure and speed based on the pleasure of the journey your partner is expressing.

If you would like to advance with two handed movements, use one hand to perform a clit massage stimulating it with your fingers. Your other hand should embark on the vaginal lips and synchronise in a repetitive motion. If penetration is something your partner is happy to receive, then you can use your second hand to enter the vagina with your fingers with a ‘come here’ finger motion. Those of you who are familiar with the location of the female sacred spot (or g-spot) can use this opportunity to seek it and incorporate a g-spot massage.

how to give a yoni massage

Did you know? – The clitoris has 6,000 – 8,000 sensual nerve endings which is more than any other physical part in the human body.

What Are The Benefits of Yoni Massage?

  1. Mental healing

    Many women have reported Yoni Massage supporting the mental healing process of painful menstruation, infertility and painful sexual intercourse.

  2. Improve sexual relationships

    Can help unlock fear of intimacy and touch, improve trust and develop low sex drive.

  3. Release higher energy

    Can help to achieve a greater connection with the mind, body and soul.

  4. More intense orgasms

    Surveys have revealed a 50% increase in the intensity of orgasms.

Consider Using A Yoni Massage Specialist

If you are interested in receiving a yoni massage from a professionally trained massage therapist, find a reputable tantric agency or tantra specialist in your area. London-based tantric massage agency Karma Tantric offers a range of specialist yoni massages for women conducted by professionally trained tantric masseuses. A trained Karma yoni massage therapist will make sure you’re completely relaxed to truly savour this amazing female treatment. Click here to find out more about our yoni massage!

Yoni Massage Infographic

To explain things a little easier, after all pictures speak a thousand words, We have published a yoni massage guide infographic below to help you understand yoni massage and to guide you through this truly amazing experience. Please share this infographic if you love it or if you know another who may benefit from understanding this tantric massage type better!

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    Wow, I tried the techniques you mentioned and my partner couldnt speak for 2 hours after the massage! Thank you so much for showing me how to please my wife in this way. I also love the way it’s something derived from ancient tantra. It seems the ancient civilisations knew a thing or two about female pleasure after all!

    • Erica Suarez-Hillingdon

      They certainly did Jimmy! Ancient tantra techniques are an incredible resource, not only for yoni related massage but also for all types of life balance, including sexuality issues. Try reading my article on the history of tantra and you will see what i mean. Thanks for your comments! E x

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    Very interesting, thanks for this. I did a little research after reading your Yoni infographic and didn’t realise Yoni massage was so popular in London. I think its time I gave it a try with my partner and will certainly get back to you on how the session goes.

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    I had no idea the clitoris had so many nerve endings. That would certainly explain the amazing sensations we get from massaging it. You learn something every day. I had heard about tantric massage but I thought it was just for men. I know what I’ll be asking for Christmas then 😉 Thanks Karma

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    I saw this post on twitter along with a recent article in the sun newspaper, I’m enjoying the information and it is making me curious as I would like to experience something like this. I never heard of a yoni massage before, but I’m very keen to learn more.

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      Hey there Melissa. Thanks for the comments and interest in my article. If you would like to find out more about female yoni massage sessions just give the Karma Team a call on 0207 898 3212 and they will be happy to answer any questions you may have or assist in arranging a Yoni massage session for you. Thanks again!

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    Great article and yoni infographic, really like how easy the information is to see. The techniques you describe are something I always consider when masturbating myself. I will try the process you mentioned tonight 🙂

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      Many thanks for the kind words. That was the idea, its so much easier to explain the details regarding yoni massage when you can actually visualise it. Glad you enjoyed. x